Just a decade ago, the lines of interaction during intimate courtship had been simple (the biggest concern was just how long to hold back before calling, a conundrum demonstrated painfully by Vince Vaughn and Jon Favreau in 1996вЂ™s Swingers). Today, with texting, e-mail, chatting, social network and countless dating sites, it is a veritable minefield: just Take one incorrect digital action and toast that is youвЂ™re.
All of this new technology calls for an updated pair of dating guidelines.
A tech-savvy licensed clinical professional counselor at Second Story Counseling in Lakeview, we devised the following doвЂ™s and donвЂ™ts of love in the age of Facebook pokes after chatting with local singles and seeking the advice of John Moore, Ph.D.
DONвЂ™T require a very first date via text message вЂњIвЂ™ve had that occur to me 3 times,вЂќ says Karen, 27, from Lakeview. вЂњI hate that. They are made by it look like they donвЂ™t have the balls to phone.вЂќ Moore agrees: вЂњItвЂ™s an approach that is regressive. A lot of people would you like to feel very special whenever theyвЂ™re asked out for a very first date. Why cheapen it using a medium that is electronic that?вЂќ
Do know for sure Internet-dating protocol previously, 33-year-old Jamie from Wicker Park committed a blunder that is online still gives her shivers. вЂњI built my personals profile on theonion.com, and I also remember there have been all those things you might always check down which you were enthusiastic about,вЂќ she claims. The options were relationship, dating, relationship or play (Jamie examined the past). вЂњ we thought, i love to play. ThatвЂ™s cool and possibly less threatening.вЂќ just What Jamie didnвЂ™t know was вЂњplayвЂќ intended she had been after no-strings-attached encounters that are sexual. Emails straight away flooded her in-box.